A reader wrote in, wondering what to wear to the wedding of a colleague… what are your best tips, readers? What have you worn to weddings of colleagues — and what would you expect colleagues to wear to your wedding?
I am a mid-level law associate and my husband is a teaching physician at a local hospital. His boss is getting married in DC in April. It is the bride’s first marriage and it will be a huge event. The wedding is at 5 and then dinner and dancing at 6 at a country club. I have NO idea what to wear.
Can I wear a black cocktail dress? I am so bad at these things and I want to make a good impression for my husband and look professional for my own benefit! This may seem like an elementary question, but did I mention I am fashionably challenged? (One more thing: I am barely thirty, but my husband is a good ten years older. I don’t want to look like a airhead, but I don’t want to look old for my age either!)
Weddings, in general, are fraught with chances for fashion errors. What is appropriate — or inappropriate — tends to be very region-specific, as well as wedding-specific.
{related: here are some fancy but easy updos for the office or beyond}
What to Wear to the Wedding of a Colleague
Take your cues from the invitation — the wording of the invitation (are middle names used? does she call her groom a “Mr.”? is “honor” spelled with a u?) and the style of the invitation (is it entirely in script? was there an inner/outer envelope? are there any quirky touches to it?) will give you an idea of what the bride is aiming at for the wedding.
As always, pay attention to the dress code listed on the invitation. If it says “black tie,” that typically means formal evening attire for women — a floor-length gown or dress is appropriate.
For semi-formal or cocktail attire, opt for a longer dress or skirt and blouse combination. And if it’s listed as casual or beach attire, go for a sundress or chic separates.
{related: the best semi-formal attire for business events}
In general, avoid wearing black or white to a wedding — we know a lot of places where black is still seen as a color of mourning. D.C. walks a fine line between being a cosmopolitan city on the East Coast, and a Southern city — we’d avoid black if at all possible.
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Instead, try to stick with jewel tones or pastels. If you want to wear white, opt for a cream or off-white shade instead. And remember that at some venues and religious ceremonies, it might be appropriate to bring a wrap or shawl in case your shoulders need covering.
Above all, use good judgment and consider the formality and location of the wedding before selecting your outfit.
(If all you’ve got is a black cocktail dress, be sure to wear a very colorful, happy wrap, as well as bag and shoes.)
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That said, look for a dress that isn’t too short, too low cut, too frothy, too shiny, or too bedazzled — because your husband is slightly older you may even want to go for a more demure, knee-length dress. Note that Rent the Runway has a whole “Weddings” section, including Black-Tie Affair-appropriate dresses.
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Some Of Our Latest Favorite Subdued Party Dresses
Some of our favorite jumpsuits and party dresses for professional settings include these as of Oct. 2022… depending on the event, you may also want to check out our latest favorite colorful sheath dresses (great for alumni events, or just get darker colors like navy).
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After-Party Attire: Our Favorite Foldable Flats
Lastly, don’t forget about footwear — depending on the venue and your outfit choice, you may want to bring along ballet flats or dressy sandals in case you need them for comfort.
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